autism, Mindful Monday

Some Thoughts on “The Crown”

Like so many other people, I greatly anticipated the return of the fourth season of the Netflix series The Crown. Knowing Princess Diana was being introduced this season and being a huge fan, I knew I was going to be bothered and somewhat saddened by her reality. However, nothing prepared me for the intense shock and sadness I experienced while watching episode 7, and it had nothing to do with Princess Di.

If you plan to watch the episode you may want to stop reading because I’m going to relay the plot line. Two adult sisters were introduced who were the nieces of the Queen mother, making them first cousins of Queen Elizabeth and her sister Margaret. The girls had been committed to an insane asylum in their teens and even declared dead in 1940. They were completely abandoned by their families and lived their lengthy lives in an overcrowded institution hidden away. The disturbing diagnosis that was given to the girls was “idiocy” and “imbecility.” In kinder words, the the girls suffered from profound developmental delays.

The loss of love not given to these special girls shook me to my core, but the loss to the Royal Family of the perspective they could have developed through loving these women throughout their life span is quite unfortunate. Imagine what life could have looked like for these girls if they had been raised around their privileged family. It made me think of Helen Keller and the commitment to her growth and education by her family with not even a fraction of the resources available to the royal family. I’m not saying that their conditions were the same and that their outcomes would have mirrored each other. But it is so disturbing that the royal family had unlimited resources and yet these girls were abandoned and declared dead. I realize that The Crown often dramatizes actual events to fit its narrative, but these girls really existed and lived virtually their entire lives in the conditions depicted so forcefully in this episode.

There is no question that the treatment of people with exceptional needs has come a long way, and for that I am so thankful. Hopefully there will never be an end game! Just a continuous movement towards measurable progress. True inclusion, not forced. Many productive day programs to choose from that are filled with happiness and learning so that turning 21 is the next exciting step and not to be dreaded. More companies pitching in and training and hiring differently abled adults. And, somehow I’d love to get behind this, ample beautiful group homes with loving care, recreational outlets and social opportunities that would provide aging parents peace of mind. I don’t want to dream of this…..I want to see this in my lifetime. We have lots of to do.

LET’S GO!!

Peace and love to all.